I've just been browsing through the Gamcare forum and it seems like a good place to go for help. Just from browsing for 5 mins I found out about bank accounts that you can get to help restrict your gambling and filtering software for your PC which will block you from accessing gambling sites. Definitely worth having a look there I think if you can.
Jesus Christ mate sorry to hear this, I had a similar problem back in the mid 1990's with the £100 fruit machines, I used to work as a bus driver and used to empty my takings into the f**king things some days.
I would say go for self exclusion mate and move on to other things, when these bastard casino's get weak people they clean them out, just like them damn bandits did to me in '95.
Get out of it and the best of luck for having the balls to post about your problem here mate. Good luck!
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I'm really sorry to hear this. All I can say is that ultimately you have to come to the decision to stop yourself and accept that the £1000 is gone and not worth chasing. If you were to win it back this would be as disastrous as losing more since it would re-enforce the idea that you can get yourself out of the hole by continuing to gamble (as appears to have happened several times previously).
Similarly, I don't think it would be good for the casino to waive the debt (not that they would!) nor a friend/family to pay the debt for you, since it again makes it seem like you can continue to gamble without such consequences. I would also be a bit wary of any support groups that push the idea that you are completely powerless to resolve the situation, as I don't buy this. I think that could even encourage further gambling because you'd think "hey, I'm not responsible anyway".
I obviously don't know your family so feel free to ignore this, but I think you should tell them of your problem. At least then it would harder to keep further gambling a secret and you'd be more accountable (I can see that it must be tempting to carry on when you're alone in a room at night and nobody will know what you're doing).
It's going to be an extremely hard and uphill struggle, but one that you have to make. I guess I'm trying to say, don't get the idea that self excluding from sites and joining a support group will solve the problem on its own without you having to put any more effort in. There will always be more casinos / ways to gamble, so you really have to gain control of your own actions in order to be successful at kicking this.
I wish you the very best of success; hopefully in a few years you'll be able to look back with a feeling of satisfaction having been able to overcome this.
Thank you everyone for all the messages, they really are helpful! This is the reason I didn't have my account immediately blocked yesterday when I decided things had to change, finally. In the past when I've talked about problems, this is the place Ive had the best advice, and the above proves it!
I'm about to go for a 5 mile run, and fitness is something I'm going to focus on this summer!
I just wondered, just in case, if any one has any methods of online money making, not gambling-related that they could share? Any additional income would be appreciated! Whilst I hope to get a job this summer, most of it will go towards paying off my debts anyway, so if I had some way of earning money, even if it's a bit, it would really help!
If you have anything you can share feel free to post/PM me!
Thanks for the story Shiv, its a good reminder how if this method is used to make money, the figures on the screen must stay as numbers and calculations - along with assuming anything put into the casino is 'lost' as any money back is a bonus.
Originally Posted by Shiv27
As for other money making, a few survey sites can make you a few quid, or on DooYoo you can write reviews for cash. Or make a website and get a few ads on there
Thank you Ahhh I did survey sites a while ago, I was hoping to find something where I could make £20-30 a day consistently, I don't mind putting in the effort for it, I just want some money! I have plenty of time on my hands!
Originally Posted by The_Ed
The website thing could work, if I had some content to put on one!
sad story mate. I think you should stay away from your laptop / internet for some time. I don´t think the idea of making money in the internet is the best thing you can do, casinos are only a click away. At least until you learn to control yourself. If you need to make money try to get a job, a real job. This will keep you distracted.
very very good info in the other posts, get professional help, talking about what happened to you will help you
Sorry to hear this bro but I might be being harsh when I say you need to get a grip and sort yourself out. I'm in the exact position as you. 19 and 1st year uni. I know times can get tough and temptation can toss you over but we're still young man and still have our whole life ahead of us. We haven't even started. 4-5 years from now after you get your good degree this will all seem like small change and really silly. Just work hard
You should feel blessed that you have come across this site (or similar) that can make you good money, I know I am. I get nagged all the time by our broke peers asking how i'm making money so easily without having a job. I love all this and although yeah i've lost some money on casino offers, or poker, or just matched betting errors keep it in your mind that your always going to make that loss back the right way.
Its not worth killing yourself shiv so go away, get a job or join a sports team. It's the summer get around and enjoy being a student again.
This is a very sobering thread.
Shiv I know how powerful the gambling urge can be. Not saying it is in your case but the urge to gamble can be linked to feelings of low self esteem. Also some people use it as a way of avoiding emotional issues that may be troubling for them.
I read your bit about not having much structure at Uni and that you ended up in your room a lot. In a way this worries me as much as the gambling. Maybe more! There is a hell of a lot of pressure at University such as friends/relationships/finding out about yourself etc. It can be a very stressful time and it's easy to not realise how much pressure you are under. It could well be that the feeling of being under pressure has led to the gambling spiraling out of control.
The problem with gambling is that it's extremely hard to talk to anyone about it because you feel like an absolute twat. But really you need to make the biggest gamble of all and be open about it with people.
I think the best thing you can do is talk to someone about what is going on in your life and in your head. You won't cure this until you know what the triggers are. If you don't fancy family there are friends who will help you, also there are the professional people too.
I really think it will help you to tell frineds at Uni. Far from seeing you negatively they will view you as complex and interesting and it will give you a certain cache. You may aswell trade on it for a while at least!
All the best.
You do know that only unsuccessful ones are able to post tips on the internet?
Originally Posted by Shiv27
Sorry, bad taste. Sounds like you have the worst kind of personality for advantage playing and like the others said it's for the best that you're quitting. Ask for all your accounts to be closed. Asking casinos where you lost a lot for liniency would probably result in getting more tempting offers, which in your case is a very bad thing.
Also, 1.000 is nothing, get a job so you can make it back, feel better about yourself and be around other people. Sounds like a good solution to some of your problems.