Thanks LP, pretty much sums it up. I think a lot of the problem was posts being taken out of context, or people posting opinions whilst presuming the facts. Easily done, and I probably took some of it the wrong way. Had a couple of supportive PM's so at least it seems I haven't done anything too serious, other than perhaps make the mistake of posting an offer both here and at MSE.
Anyway, lets forget it all and make up.